New bird

[LovelySydney]

I went and saw my breeder today and immediately took to a lutino who hopped right on my lap while I was sitting talking. After an hour she was still there, sleeping and beak grinding. My breeder asked me if Id like to take her home and I called my bf and he said definitely. So were home now - AND SHES A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT BIRD!

Now I am committed to my animals but good lord this one turned fast. If I go near her she flies around her cage and screeches like the devil. I changed her water and she bit me - hard! I've been sitting next to her cage so she gets used to me but I wont lie, I feel really defeated. Could be that Luka was so trusting and adorable within an hour of being here and this one is a little tyrant! lol - oh and it probably doesn't help that she's a proven female. She's eating right now and has been playing with her toys and getting into everything in her cage so I guess thats good. I tried to sneak her some millet but when she saw my finger coming to the cage she freaked out. Her wings are clipped as well.


I know she probably needs an 'adjustment period' but how do I deal with this? Such diff. behavior as before - I really hope it calms down some.

[cp.lovebird]

You're doing the right thing by sitting by her cage and talking to her. I think it will take her time to get used to you and her new surroundings. Patience, consistency and lots of love seems to work with lovies!

Congratulations on your new lovie! It would be great to see some pics when she gets settled in. :)

[LovelySydney]

Update -- A little after I posted about the new lutino I became very overwhelmed and grief stricken. I think that I was trying to replace Luka a little too quickly and the fact that the new bird wasn't warming up to me as quickly as Luka had I felt very sad and defeated, very upset. After talking, my bf called my breeder and he took the bird back to her. I've been crying for a little bit, but I know in my heart Im just not ready for a new bird. I haven't mourned Luka enough and Im not ready to let her go or bring a new bird into this house with such fresh memories.

In the meantime, Im going to take a break from this forum for a little while. I just get so excited when I hear about everyones birds and I know I need some time before I get another. Its hard for me to see threads too that I wrote about Luka coming to work with me or how quickly she was learning - I just need a break.

Thank you everyone SO MUCH for all the advice, kind words and upbeat responses every single time that I was on this forum and/or posting a thread. I have learned so much and have had my heart warmed to the core! Hopefully I will be back soon with a brand new fid - and when that day comes this will be the first place I go!!

Thanks again and all the best.

[Eliza]

Grieving the loss of a pet is difficult. Everyone handles the situation differently.

I'm so sorry that things didn't work out quite how you had hoped with the little lutino but I'm glad that the breeder stepped in to help.

Take the time that you need to grieve for Luka. And please don't be a stranger to the forum! I know it hard but in so many ways, this forum helped me mourn my beloved Beetle.

Lots of ((((HUGS)))).

[newloviemom]

We'll be here waiting for you when you are ready to come back...and when you are ready for a new fid...the right one will find it's way into your heart and soul once again!! Until then-take all the time you need to grieve the loss of your little Luka. Hugs- Cindy & Zoe

[bookworm0550]

i'm sorry it didnt work out with the lutino. take your time, it's okay. i do hope you come back soon.

[HaleBoppPeachyluv]

awwww.... hugs to you. Glad the breeder was willing to take back the lutino.

I know that when i lost my Hale-Bopp it took me 2 years to get thru the grieving process to where i could bring home another fid. None were just the right fit. When I found Makalii, i settled in and mentally prepared for decades long companionship... when i lost Maka after just 6 months to a totally preventable accident where i was at fault... i was devastated... but needed a fid. It took me a month of "not really looking" when i happened across Sunnybird.... and was angry when she didn't settle as quickly at Maka did. I even floated the idea of rehoming her. The forum helped me take a step back, examine my expectations & slow down my taming "agenda". And it worked.... it took sunnybird longer, and she had such a different personality than Maka, but i've had her almost as long as Maka...and while I still grieve his loss, I love my Sunny as well. Hope you find your way back to us.