Not sure what to do

[CompassionAk]

I have recently been diagnosed with cancer and will be having a double mastectomy on the 14th. I've been in alot of pain and feeling just miserable lately,I'm 36 but I feel like I'm 86.

Last month Annie laid a clutch of eggs which I was able to replace with fakes but she is starting to look like she is eggnant again. I won't be able to keep tabs on her this round and I don't want to end up with babies when I am feeling so bad.

I asked the lady I got her from if she would be interested in taking her back and she said sure. I just feel like I can't keep up with Annie and lately she's been stuck locked in her cage most the time because when she is out she attacks and terrorizes the other birds.

I'm wondering if I re-home Annie how will this affect Boo? Most the time he doesn't hang out with her,he's usually out with me or playing with the other birds. Am I being selfish if I split them up?

I just don't feel I can physically keep up with Annie and her care right now. The other birds all get along fine,she's the cause of any chaos here and I just think right now it might be best to re-home her.

I guess I need other peoples thoughts and ideas here,please be honest... I need to know if I am doing the right thing or not.

[linda040899]

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Angie,
I'm sorry for the bad turn your health has temporarily taken but think beyond today, next week, next month, next 6 months. A double mastectomy is a tall order but you will feel better after the surgery is complete and everything has healed. Returning Annie is permanent. Is that what you really want? Boo may not hang out with her but they had a clutch of babies together so there IS a bond there. Do they sleep together at night? If the answer is yes, he will miss her.

Who will be taking care of your birds during treatment? If you have fake eggs, could that person simply remove one egg and replace it with a fake one?

Don't mean to answer questions with more questions. You just really need to think the situation through.

[One bird for one heart.]

The only one that can make this desion is you. I just want you to know that what ever you choose we will all be hear to support you. If their is any chance of being able to take care of this through your health problems I would give it a try you can always give her back later if you need to. I'm terribly sorry that you have to go through all of this. I will keep you in my prayers.

[linda040899]

I just want you to know that what ever you choose, we will all be hear to support you.
Very true! We are a family here which means we share good times, as well as bad and all stand together for each other.

[Pips mom]

Ohhh, I am so sorry for what you are going through!:hug: I'm wondering also if the woman knew your situation, if maybe she might take her for you during all of this and then when you're feeling better, let you have her back, maybe even the two together so they don't have to be separated......just something to think about. I've seen where people have done this to help someone out, and none of the situations were health issues like yours. You are just trying to do what you think is best for your birds and for Annie and have to consider all of your options. Whatever happens....you know that we'll all support your decision, and would never think you are being selfish.... We'll all be thinking of you and wishing you the best with your surgery.

[Chickobee]

Angie;

It's so nice of Lisa to take Annie for you at this time. Annie would be returning to a home she knows so it wouldn't be as hard on her as rehoming her with someone else. And, when you are feeling better after your recovery you may be able to get her back again it that is the right thing to do then.

You have a whole lot on your plate right now so if some little things can be done to make things easier I think you should do them and take good care of yourself. Minimizing your stress at this time will give you less to worry about through the next few months. Keeping a positive attitude and enjoying the little things in life will help a lot as you go through your surgery and recovery.

Yes, Boo will miss Annie for a while, but he has the other birds and you to help him through it. If this is causing you distress and worry then you need to do what is best for you to have peace of mind.

:grouphug1

[bbslovie]

Hi, I don't have any advice I just wanted to send hugs, thoughts and prayers your way.


Barb

[penelope's person]

Wow, you're definitely in a tough spot right now and I'm so sorry you have to make such hard decisions. I really can't weigh in either way. I would encourage you though to just sort of sit with both options for a couple of days and ask "Which option is kindest to me and the birds?" "Is there a third, in-between option?" and "Which option will be the most supportive to my recovery?". After all, you need to take care of you before you can think about caring for anyone else.

You're in my prayers.

[CompassionAk]

Well I made my decision last night when Zeus landed on Annies cage and she bit his toe and wouldn't let go. It was extremely painful for me to hobble over to the cage and pry her beak off of poor Zeus's toe and it made me realize I couldn't keep her. Zeus would have lost a tor if I hadn't of made it to the cage when I did and I can't get that awful cry he made out of my head.

I'm sad because it took a while to gain the trust I had with her but I just can't keep up with her in the condition I am in. She's in great hands over at Lisa's and so far Boo doesn't even seem to notice she is gone.

[Janie]

Angie, I am so, so sorry to hear about your health issue. (((HUGS)))

I think you have to do what's best for you and your health at this time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Christian]

:grouphug:Just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

[CompassionAk]

Ugh looks like my cancer has metastasized into my bones,the doctors give me about 5 years to live which means I am going to have to rehome my babies. I don't think it will be fair for them to end up stuck in their cages because I am too weak to look after them. I can't believe this is happening... I'm only 36 =(

[michael]

Angie. ... I'll be praying for you. .. That you can continue to live life to the fullest. That you'll find comfort both physically and mentally in the days to come. .. Despite this challenge, I hope you manage to stay with us. .. We will certainly be staying with you. .............:)

[Z28Taxman]

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[Bella's mom]

Angie,
My thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time.

[Pips mom]

I don't know what to say except for I am so sorry :very_sad: Please get a second opinion on all of this.....into your bones? Can't they do a bone marrow transplant or something? I know of someone right now who just went through one because of cancer is doing well. You are in my thoughts and prayers always.....and never lose hope because of what doctors tell you...they have been known to be wrong sometimes.

[Jally]

:very_sad: I am so sorry. I wish I could do something. {{{hugs}}}

[Janie]

((((Angie))))


You are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry.

[CompassionAk]

I don't know what to say except for I am so sorry :very_sad: Please get a second opinion on all of this.....into your bones? Can't they do a bone marrow transplant or something? I know of someone right now who just went through one because of cancer is doing well. You are in my thoughts and prayers always.....and never lose hope because of what doctors tell you...they have been known to be wrong sometimes.

Bone marrow transplants don't work when breast cancer has metastasized into the bone. They had a tumor board the other day where every single Dr who is specialized in cancer get together. So several different hospitals are working together to figure out the best treatment plan for me will be.

Right now I am set to have 2 weeks of radiation starting Tuesday.

[bbslovie]

Hi Angie, you are in our thoughts and prayers.

:grouphug1


Barb

[kakazizou]

x x x x

[One bird for one heart.]

Oh don't belive that doctor go see someone else their is always hope! You are in our thoughts and players.
:hug:

[graushill]

I'm so sorry Angie. I don't know you that well either but I'll be praying for you.

Keep strong and keep positive. There's always hope.

(((HUGS)))

Gloria

[diljaa]

I'm so sorry to hear about your illness. ((HUGS)) It sounds so unfair!! I'll keep you and your flock in my thoughts!

[LauraO]

I am so sorry you and your flock will be going through such a rough time. It's no easier with fids to think about. I understanding your need to rehome Annie at this point, but I wonder if rehoming your other babies might be done more slowly and depending on your condition. I ask cause Lovies can be such wonderful support and love during hard times, and you may benefit from them. Of course, like others said, only you know your limits.


Let us know how it goes. Best Wishes :).

[alaskanJB]

Angie ~
I'm so sorry! I don't know if there is anything at all I could do to help, but since we live so close to each other do not hesitate at all to ask if you need anything! I will be happy to help in any way.
((Hugs))