I repeat "I WILL NOT GIVE UP MY BEST FRIEND"

[bimmyb]

My boyfriend of 11 months was talking about moving in together over the next few months. Thats great i thought until i mentioned that we would need somewere that was big enough for my lil guys cages and play gym ect....

He then annouced that he we wouldnt be moving anywere whist i still got "that bloody bird"!!!!! Well you can imagine my response.......

When i first got Mojo he was very up for the idea of having a beautiful bird and it all suddnely changed when i had to spend a lot of my time taming him and getting him to be so affectionate. I tried to get him to read all the books i had to get him to understand why you cannot just let a lovebird fester in his cage. Mojo likes him alot but the feeling is not mutual and he makes a huge fuss over the droppings ( how ridiculous, tiny little droppings)
he also doesnt like the fact that Mojo will not let him touch him with his hands and he doesnt really like him to land on him. I do think alot of it is jealousy to be honest as he takes the mick out of the way i talk to Mojo and have snuggle sessions with him. When i was first taming him he used to shout at him for nipping and bat him away, when i tried to explain that you cannot train a bird with force as it will do the exact opposite (in fact u shouldnt train any animal with force) he just said he will listen in the end. I stopped having Mojo out of the cage on the nights he was staying as i was worried.

I know it take a special kind of person to be owned by a luvvie but seriously come on.......

I also know that if it came to it i would choose my lovebug over him just for the sake of him being so pathetic about it...sorry to rant lol

[linda040899]

I'm with you! Bye bye, bf.......

Bird people are special and non-bird people just don't understand. With me, it's always been love me, love my birds. Anything less is not acceptable. When I look back at "potential" relationships that I stayed out of because of this, the fact that the other person didn't like my birds was always the tip of the iceberg. Other character flaws would have made the relationship unworkable so getting out early saved me from a lot of heartache.

[kimberly1985]

Non-bird lovers! UGH! LOL

My husband kinda likes Yoshi but he doesn't "play" with him though!

[Enko_chan]

Yes...

even though Chris only reluctantly let our first fid get his little scaly foot in the door, he eventually became a bird person. (months of gentle arguing- I do believe its the only thing we've ever disagreed that strongly about in our entire cohabitation, but we never cross the line with our arguing, so I prodded gently and he rebuffed gently. We both grew up with birds, but the family I grew up with knew how to tame their birds and his did not.) Now I have seen the birds become our family and they've brought out a wonderful, almost parental side of him.

I understand that some people cannot understand the level of connection I have with my parrots, and I keep the bird chat down to a minimum around them, but it really bothers me when they feel the need to be nasty about it. Everyone has good in them, and I've been in relationships where I've reached the point that I've realized there's a big thing that's going to be a road-block, or many small things that have balled up over time. I know it isn't as simple as just leaving someone behind, this guy obviously has redeeming qualities, despite being a bird jerk, but I agree if you're reaching the point of moving in together and he doesn't know your heart well enough to treat your beloved companion with respect and to know that the bird is obviously part of the family... well...

[bimmyb]

Agreed!! I do think he makes more of a deal about it wen im around as i have come home from work a few time to find that he has Mojo out of the cage! When i enquire he just uses the excuse that he got in early so got him out ready for me.... a likley story!! I just think he is jealous and seeking attention lol.

The test will be to see if he gives in to making room for my lil guy!!! (i think he will)

[michael]

..........He then annouced that he we wouldnt be moving anywere whist i still got "that bloody bird"!!!!!.........

You know, there are several adoption agencies out there. .......:)........ Too bad none of them accept boyfriends. ............:very_sad:

[thebubbleking]

Every woman i went out with knew about my birds and they were the final decision if i dated them or not, no matter how the woman tried to act like they liked my fids they knew thier true intentions...by listening to my birds i have ended up with the woman of my dreams...only problem is trying not to get jealous when they want to spend time with her instead of me ..helllo i feed you water you make toys and you wanna hang out with her?!?! my hairs as long as hers humph the nerve! lol also your partners reaction to your birds and how they deal with them is a good indication on thier parenting skills!

[Z28Taxman]

I'm with everyone else here. If someone tried to get me to choose between her or the Dittobird..... See 'ya. Ditto was here first and won't cheat so guess who would stay!:whistle:

[CHIris83]

Yeah i agree too...if a guy comes and tells me i cant take my birds then i'm sorry but accept them as part of the family or go away... they are my babies...

[Mummieeva]

My husband is not really a bird person. But he tolerated all my birds. Even when they started chirping at 6am.lol. My birds on other hand did not like him for anything other then plucking his hair out.:rofl:



Steph

[Bubblelady]

I agree with everyone else. Besides all the other excellent comments...I'd worry about anyone who is jealous of the attention I pay my bird. What happens when there are children demanding your attention??? Doesn't sound like good father material to me!

[Pips mom]

You always have to watch out for people who cannot love. This is what happened to me. They'll pretend to be wonderful, but how they are towards the birds I think would say alot. It does take a special person....someone who's eyes are open and truly can feel that connection. A man who loves birds.....now there's a REAL man! the proof is right here.....just look at the great men here who love their birds!:hug: I have yet to find a man who has a relationship with birds who is a jerk!

[Bubblelady]

. A man who loves birds.....now there's a REAL man! the proof is right here.....just look at the great men here who love their birds!:hug: I have yet to find a man who has a relationship with birds who is a jerk!

AMEN to that, Kim!!!!

[Ali]

You know, there are several adoption agencies out there. .......:)........ Too bad none of them accept boyfriends. ............:very_sad:

That made me :rotfl

[maya_exquisite]

Mika and I are a package deal for sure. Besides my family, he has been with me the longest (he's almost 10)!! Every guy I dated, from the point I started having birds, knew and had to accept it. My previous bf and I lived together and he was very okay with Mika and Kano (RIP) and went as far as cleaning their cages for me a lot.

Shinbatsu, my current bf, has gone above and beyond. All his life he thought birds were rubbish pets because everyone he knew that had them, just had them in little cages and the birds weren't tame and would try to bite if you put your finger close. Once he met Mika and he climbed onto his lap and looked up at him, he changed his mind about birds and started to really get interested. Now, he has Raptor and they have a very special bond. Though the bf will never feel the EXACT same way as I do about birds (they are ranked higher than most humans in my book, but for him a bird will never come before a human - especially me), he loves Mika and Raptor soooooooo much and he's "let" ( ;) ) me turn half our home into a bird kingdom.

I love my bf so much for understanding that Mika is my son and I will never choose someone over my baby. I know we don't know your bf or anything, but IN GENERAL a person that acts that way toward your pet isn't good life-mate potential for you. Just like if I met a guy that had a dog or cat, I probably wouldn't be with him 'cause I don't care for dogs/cats and we'd probably argue about it in the future - so I just steered clear from the start. There are certain things that are "deal-breakers": kids/no kids, sometimes religion/politics, smoking, etc... and pets can be a deal-breaker. If you can't accept my passion for birds, it's not going to work out in the long run because I'd be miserable without birds.

If one has to give up a PASSION or LOVE for someone, that person is not right for them - and could possibly be downright unhealthy for them. What sort of life would one live not being able to have their passion??? :(

[HaleBoppPeachyluv]

aww!

i love this thread.

When hubby and I started dating, DH was fearful of birds and would cringe whenever Makalii was out if his cage.....it was almost humourous to watch this big huge guy duck his head and tremble when the little feather butt landed on his head, but he knew it was "love me, love my bird" and made an honest effort. Slowly he became less afraid.

After Maka passed and I got Sunnybird, DH got to be a part of the training/taming and now Sunnybird loves him more than me! :rotfl

I hope your bf comes around!

[bird-brain]

You know, there are several adoption agencies out there. .......:)........ Too bad none of them accept boyfriends. ............:very_sad:

:rotfl:rotfl:rofl::rotfl:rotfl

[bimmyb]

Well guys........Ive laid it all down for the BF and he now knows that I will NOT be giving up my baby and he isnt going anywere soon as we all know they can live a very long time (providing they are cared for well) so lump or like it!! Mojo had a little sit with him last night and when i did my usual calling Mojo to come to me as he doesnt like him on him he said "leave him, hes ok.....Shock horror!!!! Well hes trying so i cant say fairer than that.

Time will tell!!:pray:

[Christian]

I'm with everyone else's comments. I have gotten rid of two boyfriends that became jealous of my babies. Mateo and I are a package deal and before that Chickie and I were one. I wish I could find a man that owns birds...then there wouldn't be a problem! We should set up a match making site, matching bird owners with other bird owners :rofl:

[thebubbleking]

Yeh instead of plenty of fish, it will be plenty of birds!!!!!! I got lucky with this lastone my fids love her to death and she takes awsome pictures of them XD

[maya_exquisite]

We should set up a match making site, matching bird owners with other bird owners :rofl:

That's something I thought about quite a while ago as something that should exist. Don't they have one for dog owners or something?

I am very glad my bf got into birds after meeting Mika. It's very cute because whenever we're laying in bed or on the couch, and Mika comes to wedge himself between us to get warm and cozy, the bf says, "Mika is the most loved bird in the whole world." <3

[RicosPoppy]

I agree it takes a certain kind of "Man" to love a bird.

I joke with all my dog owner's that a dog is "Man's Best Friend" becuase you can beat the crap out of a dog and it will still lick your face when you're done.

Patience, tolerance, docility, compassion, submissiveness, trying not to be the ALPHA, getting bit and not screaming like a baby.

All requirements for bird lovers, but not necessarily traits you find in most men. ;)

Good Luck.