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12-12-2011, 09:59 PM
About four days ago, I contacted the breeder I purchased Elysium from. At that point, I had had her for about... two weeks.
I emailed the breeder mainly to ask if what I was doing was okay, and listed off everything. I explained that she was comfortable with me next to her cage and would eat around me and such, but was fearful of my hands. I had finally gotten to the point where she would eat millet if I held it between two fingertips (but not in my palm). She would make noises to me, although never anything that really seemed like contact calls, persay. She did have favorite songs she would chirp to too (a behavior she has completely stopped now...).
So, I explain all this, and she emails me back and says I've given the bird a chance and now I needed to make it on my terms. She said I should catch Elysium and take her to a smaller room, such as the bathroom, to socialize.
Let me provide some background, if you haven't seen my other threads. Elysium is about four months old, born August 11th, handfed and handraised. She was used to be handled daily when I purchased her on November 21st.
I didn't want to force her, because I've been reading all over that I would break her trust. However, I trusted the breeder's advice so I did it.
That evening, Elysium climbed on my shoulder when she needed a ride. I was thrilled!
I told the breeder and it says on her care sheet that I should give Elysium an hour to two hours inside her cage and then take her out for another thirty minutes. So for the past three days, that's what I've been doing.
Now, though, I have some concerns. She is extremely afraid of my hands now. When I go to get her, or even get close to her cage, she starts breathing really hard and goes to the farther and higher corner. Ever since I got her I left her door open trying to tempt her to come out and she never did, didn't even seem interested. I always have to catch her to take her out; inside the cage she will not step up, and she runs from me. She has never bitten me, or acted aggressive at all, just scared.
When I have her out on my shoulder or wandering around she's fine and completely calm again. She'll step up cheerfully for me (although she will still shy from hands/fingers). She enjoys being on me as far as I can tell, and preens my hair and nibbles my ear affectionately. Earlier today, she even dozed on me.
Honestly, I feel like I've taken a giant step back with her cage manners though. Sure, it's awesome being able to handle her, but I can't even sit next to her cage anymore to talk to her without freaking her out (if I don't try to get her and just sit there, real still and murmuring to her, in about two minutes she'll calm down).
I guess I'm just worried I did a stupid thing, and now she's peeved at me.
Should I stop doing this and let her settle again, or continue so I don't disrupt the pattern? The breeder says after about a week of doing this, Elysium will start to see me as her new family and be calm about the whole thing.
Any opinions on this by chance? :whistle:
Thanks!
(and sorry for the long explanation, lol)
I emailed the breeder mainly to ask if what I was doing was okay, and listed off everything. I explained that she was comfortable with me next to her cage and would eat around me and such, but was fearful of my hands. I had finally gotten to the point where she would eat millet if I held it between two fingertips (but not in my palm). She would make noises to me, although never anything that really seemed like contact calls, persay. She did have favorite songs she would chirp to too (a behavior she has completely stopped now...).
So, I explain all this, and she emails me back and says I've given the bird a chance and now I needed to make it on my terms. She said I should catch Elysium and take her to a smaller room, such as the bathroom, to socialize.
Let me provide some background, if you haven't seen my other threads. Elysium is about four months old, born August 11th, handfed and handraised. She was used to be handled daily when I purchased her on November 21st.
I didn't want to force her, because I've been reading all over that I would break her trust. However, I trusted the breeder's advice so I did it.
That evening, Elysium climbed on my shoulder when she needed a ride. I was thrilled!
I told the breeder and it says on her care sheet that I should give Elysium an hour to two hours inside her cage and then take her out for another thirty minutes. So for the past three days, that's what I've been doing.
Now, though, I have some concerns. She is extremely afraid of my hands now. When I go to get her, or even get close to her cage, she starts breathing really hard and goes to the farther and higher corner. Ever since I got her I left her door open trying to tempt her to come out and she never did, didn't even seem interested. I always have to catch her to take her out; inside the cage she will not step up, and she runs from me. She has never bitten me, or acted aggressive at all, just scared.
When I have her out on my shoulder or wandering around she's fine and completely calm again. She'll step up cheerfully for me (although she will still shy from hands/fingers). She enjoys being on me as far as I can tell, and preens my hair and nibbles my ear affectionately. Earlier today, she even dozed on me.
Honestly, I feel like I've taken a giant step back with her cage manners though. Sure, it's awesome being able to handle her, but I can't even sit next to her cage anymore to talk to her without freaking her out (if I don't try to get her and just sit there, real still and murmuring to her, in about two minutes she'll calm down).
I guess I'm just worried I did a stupid thing, and now she's peeved at me.
Should I stop doing this and let her settle again, or continue so I don't disrupt the pattern? The breeder says after about a week of doing this, Elysium will start to see me as her new family and be calm about the whole thing.
Any opinions on this by chance? :whistle:
Thanks!
(and sorry for the long explanation, lol)