transferred dislike?

[goldnyght]

I've noticed lately that Pete seems to be taking every possible opportunity to beat up on J (my boyfriend's son). He doesn't do it when I'm looking though.

My inital thought was that J had been doing something mean to Pete. I realized though, that the two of them never have any interaction that I'm not supervising.

So I'm wondering, is it possible that he's picking up on my dislike for J and acting on it? J is the only one he's doing it to (he's really affectionate, even with strangers) >o

[LauraO]

There is probably just something that Pete doesn't like about the kid and you really just have to respect that. I do doubt if Pete's picking up anything from anyone else. He may just be seeing what's going on in the house or feeling an energy he's not comforteable with. From what you describe your boyfriend's son is very energetic and not always friendly, though I could be wrong.

Good Luck and try to help J understand that Pete is just a small little bird and he gets afraid easy, or try whatever else you think will give Pete some room.

[Janie]

I have read and been told that sometimes a parrot just does not like a person. I know that is more common in larger parrots but I would imagine that lovies can also display that behavior. None of my three like any other family member nearly as much as they do me and it took the younger two nearly 10 months to get comfortable with my hubby. They more he worked at the relationship, the friendlier they became.


Good Luck and try to help J understand that Pete is just a small little bird and he gets afraid easy, or try whatever else you think will give Pete some room.

Ditto to that! :)

[LauraO]

I have read and been told that sometimes a parrot just does not like a person. I know that is more common in larger parrots but I would imagine that lovies can also display that behavior.


Too true. We adopted an older indian ringneck in February and he HATES women. It's so funny cause my husband can pick him up, cuddle him and Chubs just coos and purrs. Me, I can't even get near him or he attacks me. I can't even change his food and water when he's in the cage. I've been working so hard to change his attitude and have made some amazing strides, but it has been very time consuming and a lot of hard work. This last month Chubs has started sitting by me, giving me little kisses, and if we're both on the bed he'll come and climb up and perch on my chest. Of course, I made one wrong move a couple weeks back and he bit the he$$ out of me. So now I hold pretty still and make no sudden moves when he's near me. Luckily he's not a hookbill so all I got was a big fat bruise instead of a chunk of flesh removed from my body :x :x .

[Janie]

Laura, "Chubs" was definitely one of the larger parrots I was thing about! ;) I don't remember a lot of stuff these days but I did remember your relationship with Chubs! :D I am very happy to hear that it's improving! :happy:

[goldnyght]

It's just baffling me though: they have so very little time together. although I suppose the negative energy (vibes or whatever) that the kid puts off is enough to irritate anything, especially my little cuddle-lovie.

Oh well, he's mainly my babu anyway, so I don't think its hurting anything, really.