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graushill
10-15-2006, 08:40 AM
Hello everyone!

I wanted to share a small success story from my flock with you all. For those who don't know us, Nemo is one of my adopted lovies, a former breeder bird that lived for most of his life in a garage aviary with what, I guess from his behaviour when he came to us, was very little to no contact with humans. A friend of mine got him as a partner for her lovie, Pontus, who had just lost his partner and was inconsolable. To make a long story short, I ended up taking care of my friend's lovies, at first temporarily and now permanently, and they've been with me on and off for about two years.

Like I said, Nemo when he came to us was as a wild a lovie as I had ever seen. He'd never been inside a house, much less inside a cage and as for my husband and me, well, we terrified him. He was so distressed with the huge change in his life the first month or two after moving in with us that I often feared he would die of a broken heart or something. Little by little though, things started to settle down and we soon discovered that underneath the terrified exterior was a very gentle and calm soul and I couldn't help but fall in love with him. He plucked himself nearly bald the first winter he was with us and has since then hasn't really let his feathers grow back totally. In many ways, I think he's been my baptism by fire where birds are concerned.

Although he has settled down, I would never call him tame. We've made some small progresses over the years: he learned to step up, he will allow us to get close to the cage and sing to him (he loves music :)) if we keep our hands firmly behind our backs and out of sight, and when the lights are turned off so that he can't actually see my hands doing it, he enjoys a head scratch as much as the next lovie. But on his own, he would never, never get close to my hands. That is until last week, when we had what to me was the biggest breakthrough we've had so far: he came up to me and took food from my hand :). Sure, it was boiled egg, his favourite food in the whole world next to sunflower seeds, and sure it was more snatching the piece of egg and running away than really eating from my fingers, but still he came up to me on his own and he took the egg from my clearly visible fingers :). And he did it at least four times.

I can imagine that for those of you who have very tame birds or who had similar breakthroughs with your lovies after only a few weeks with them, this will not seem like much of a success, not after it took two years to get to this point. But to me, it was a priceless moment and more of a confirmation that the advice that they give at this board about how important it is to let your lovie learn to trust you at his own pace is very true!

Have a nice weekend!
Gloria

butterfly1061
10-15-2006, 08:48 AM
Gloria! That is wonderful news :happy: After all that Nemo has been through, it's amazing the progress you've had with him. I'm so happy for you. He's such a pretty little thing. Maybe he'll grow to understand that your hands aren't so bad after all. We can only hope and I know you'll love showing him. Things like this just make your heart sing with happiness, huh? :D

bellarains
10-15-2006, 09:07 AM
Gloria,

With your sweet, loving nature, I am not shocked that Nemo has given you this trust:)

Trust, it seems like a small word, but as we all know, it's a hard thing to earn from a lovie who was never socialized, or one that we don't know what his past was like. With your love, and patience, Nemo has approached you(even if it was for a favorite food), and now that he has, I'm sure he will continue to do so. I'm sure he feels your love, it's just taken him some time to come experience it up close.

I'm so excited for you both. Your love, and patience are paying off, and Nemo is going to reap the rewards:D

Buy A Paper Doll
10-15-2006, 02:41 PM
How wonderful!!! Gloria, I think the longer you wait for those little moments, the sweeter they are.

I'm glad HeatherJ had a chance to reply because I thought of her sweet Ruthie when I was reading your post about Nemo.

Jessica
10-16-2006, 12:11 AM
It sounds like a precious moment. We have two birds that were wild and will only let us close to them after a year. The moments they take a chance and trust just lifts your heart. I hope Nemo takes more leaps soon.

linda040899
10-16-2006, 12:51 AM
Absolutely fantastic, Gloria, and thank you for sharing that with us! Something happened in Nemo's past that has made him distrustful of hands but he has let down his guard a bit because his database now contains information that tells him that not all hands are evil! It's a slow process but it's a huge leap forward for Nemo and you! :)

LauraO
10-16-2006, 01:00 AM
Gloria: Thanks for sharing about Nemo:) . I don't think it's at all insignificant. In fact, I sometimes think these small steps with lovies such as Nemo are more rewarding than any work done with tame birds.

graushill
10-16-2006, 03:12 PM
Hello everyone!

Yep, egg day was an exciting day for us :). Heather, if Nemo is learning to trust, I'm sure there's hope for everyone. I will love to read when your Ruthie comes over to you, 'cause I know that Danny will soon be eating from your fingers :).

Gloria